ПОДРОСТКИ И ТЕЛЕФОН: ЧАСТЬ 4 DIGITAL FOOTPRINT
ЧТО НУЖНО ОБСУДИТЬ С ПОДРОСТКОМ ПЕРЕД ТЕМ, КАК ПРЕДОСТАВЛЯТЬ ЕМУ ЛИЧНЫЙ ТЕЛЕФОН.
Вот, например, вступительное письмо и контракт (на английском) между родителями и подростком.
Dear _______________,
Hurray! You are now the proud owner of a smart phone (Galaxy something).It is a privilege to have the smart phone.
You are a good and responsible 14-year-old boy. With the acceptance of this device comes rules and regulations. Please read through the following contract. I hope that you understand it is my job to raise you into a well-rounded, healthy young man that can function in the world and coexist with technology, not be ruled by it.
Failure to comply with the following list will result in termination of your smart phone ownership.
I love you dearly and look forward to sharing several million text messages with you in the days to come.
It is my hope that you can agree to these terms. Most of the lessons listed here do not just apply to the iPhone, but to life. You are growing up in a fast and ever changing world. It is exciting and enticing. Keep it simple every chance you get. Trust your powerful mind and giant heart above any machine. I love you. I hope you enjoy your awesome new smart phone.
Mom
Teen Smartphone Contract
1. Mom and Dad will always know the password to the phone.
2. Do not ever ignore a phone call if the screen reads “Mom” or “Dad.” Not ever.
3. Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at either 10:30 p.m. or when Mom goes to bed (whichever is earlier) every school night and every weekend night at 11:00 p.m. It will be shut off for the night and turned on again at 6:30 a.m.
4. It does not go to homeschool with you. Have a conversation with the people you text in person. It’s a life skill.
5. If it falls into the toilet, smashes on the ground, or vanishes into thin air, you are responsible for the replacement costs or repairs. It will happen, you should be prepared.
6. Do not use this technology to lie, fool, or deceive another human being. Do not involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others.
7. Do not text, email, or say anything through this device you would not say in person.
8. Do not text, email, or say anything to someone that you would not say out loud with their parents in the room. Censor yourself.
9. No porn. Search the web for information you would openly share with me. If you have a question about anything, ask a person — preferably me or your father.
10. Don’t be on the phone when the rest of the family is sitting around involved in a conversation. Turn it off, silence it, put it away in public/church/teen ministry, especially, while speaking with another human being. You are not a rude person; do not allow the smart phone to change that.
11. You will not be on your phone during meals. Period. This includes meals a home, at a restaurant or at a friend’s house.
12. Do not lie about what you are doing on the phone. Lying takes away my trust in you and it’s really hard to get that back.
13. Do not take pictures of people and post them without their permission. Never post anything online that you wouldn’t text to me or Dad.
14. NO social networks are allowed at this time, EXCEPT for Viber. We will discuss adding some of them later, when you show the responsibility of using the smart phone.
15. Add your daily tasks and chores to the reminders with alerts and don’t get on your phone until the chores are finished, except to listen to music.
16. Do not send or receive pictures of your private parts or anyone else’s private parts. Don’t laugh. Someday you will be tempted to do this despite your high intelligence. It is risky and could ruin your teenage/college/adult life. It is always a bad idea. Cyberspace is vast and more powerful than you. And it is hard to make anything of this magnitude disappear — including a bad reputation.
17. Don’t take a zillion pictures and videos. There is no need to document everything. Live your experiences. They will be stored in your memory for eternity.
18. Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision. It is not alive or an extension of you. Learn to live without it. Be bigger and more powerful than FOMO (fear of missing out).
19. Download music that is classic or different than the millions of your peers that listen to the same exact stuff. Your generation has access to music like never before in history. Take advantage of that gift. Expand your horizons.
20. No games. Zero. You heard that right.
21. Keep your eyes up. See the world happening around you. Stare out a window. Listen to the birds. Take a walk. Talk to a stranger. Wonder without googling.
22. You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will sit down and talk about it. We will start over again. You and I, we are always learning. I am on your team. We are in this together.
____________________________ Teen ___________ Date
____________________________ Parents